Yes. Yes it is. :) I'm waiting to go to lunch, so I thought I'd make a mid-day post. :)
Let me tell you a little secret...
I think I'm having a quarter-life crisis. IDK What's wrong really, but maybe that's it. :S
I have been reading Pioneer Woman's latest posts where she answers reader's questions. She gives the BEST advice--advice that is amazingly poignant for this point in my life...and that also made me cry today.
Anyway, here are the bits that I found useful today.
P-Dub on being available to love:
"Your fear of having your heart broken might be a little on the elevated side. It’s natural for humans to protect themselves, particularly from emotional pain. But in order to find love, we do have to be willing to take a chance and open our hearts—otherwise, there’s nowhere for the love to enter.
I should write Hallmark cards. Not.
What I’m saying is, there are no guarantees...but that’s what makes love so wonderful. And look at it this way: to the extent that we’re able to feel hurt, we’re also able to feel joy. So don’t let fear drive you—whether in life, love, job, friendships...anything.
Also, don’t impose a schedule upon yourself. Don’t feel impatient that you’re not yet on the road to marriage. [...]You have plenty of time ahead. Concentrate on your life, your job, your hobbies, your interests—not on whether or not you’ll ever find a husband. It’ll probably happen when you’re busy with other things."
P-Dub on not letting fear rule you and staying in the now:
"Fear of being hurt should never drive us, though it’s hard for it not to. In order to be open to new love, new friendships, new experiences, we also have to open ourselves up a bit...which is always risky...don’t let fear of getting hurt stop you. Focus on the step you're on, not fourteen possible steps ahead."
Still P-Dub...on a relationship gone bad:
"The sting will probably always be there, but the hurt only has the amount of power you choose to give it. Be positive, confident."
And a little something for the future (also from P-Dub):
"Look at marriage not as 50-50, but as 100-100. Because the truth is that at any given time, one of you will not be capable of giving 100%. And when that happens, the other will be there to fill in the gap, if you will.
Looking at marriage as 50-50 might suggest that you’ll only go so far, that you’ll only give what’s given to you in return—which can result in a little bit of score-keeping. But if you’re both all-in no matter what, I think real closeness can develop over the years. Marriage, in my dorky opinion, really does mean giving all of yourself to another person. Not that you cease to be your own person, obviously. You’re not just half of a whole. You’re two wholes...that make a larger whole.
Wait...what?
That made zero mathematical or logical sense. But marriage doesn’t either! It’s way more mysterious than that. So enjoy!"
She is so amazing! Seriously. I love her freaking guts!
Anyway. As I wait for the chance to go to lunch, I'll leave you with a song. Enjoy the rest of your Friday!
Let me tell you a little secret...
I think I'm having a quarter-life crisis. IDK What's wrong really, but maybe that's it. :S
I have been reading Pioneer Woman's latest posts where she answers reader's questions. She gives the BEST advice--advice that is amazingly poignant for this point in my life...and that also made me cry today.
Anyway, here are the bits that I found useful today.
P-Dub on being available to love:
"Your fear of having your heart broken might be a little on the elevated side. It’s natural for humans to protect themselves, particularly from emotional pain. But in order to find love, we do have to be willing to take a chance and open our hearts—otherwise, there’s nowhere for the love to enter.
I should write Hallmark cards. Not.
What I’m saying is, there are no guarantees...but that’s what makes love so wonderful. And look at it this way: to the extent that we’re able to feel hurt, we’re also able to feel joy. So don’t let fear drive you—whether in life, love, job, friendships...anything.
Also, don’t impose a schedule upon yourself. Don’t feel impatient that you’re not yet on the road to marriage. [...]You have plenty of time ahead. Concentrate on your life, your job, your hobbies, your interests—not on whether or not you’ll ever find a husband. It’ll probably happen when you’re busy with other things."
P-Dub on not letting fear rule you and staying in the now:
"Fear of being hurt should never drive us, though it’s hard for it not to. In order to be open to new love, new friendships, new experiences, we also have to open ourselves up a bit...which is always risky...don’t let fear of getting hurt stop you. Focus on the step you're on, not fourteen possible steps ahead."
Still P-Dub...on a relationship gone bad:
"The sting will probably always be there, but the hurt only has the amount of power you choose to give it. Be positive, confident."
And a little something for the future (also from P-Dub):
"Look at marriage not as 50-50, but as 100-100. Because the truth is that at any given time, one of you will not be capable of giving 100%. And when that happens, the other will be there to fill in the gap, if you will.
Looking at marriage as 50-50 might suggest that you’ll only go so far, that you’ll only give what’s given to you in return—which can result in a little bit of score-keeping. But if you’re both all-in no matter what, I think real closeness can develop over the years. Marriage, in my dorky opinion, really does mean giving all of yourself to another person. Not that you cease to be your own person, obviously. You’re not just half of a whole. You’re two wholes...that make a larger whole.
Wait...what?
That made zero mathematical or logical sense. But marriage doesn’t either! It’s way more mysterious than that. So enjoy!"
She is so amazing! Seriously. I love her freaking guts!
Anyway. As I wait for the chance to go to lunch, I'll leave you with a song. Enjoy the rest of your Friday!
4 comments:
I feel like you shared the wisdom of Yoda! Dude. For reals. I'm so totally following P-Dub! Thank you.
She's freaking awesome.
mmm, loved this. in a way, it can be applied not just in relationships but in other aspects of life. does that make sense?
It totally makes sense!!! :)
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